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How to Build a Healthy Relationship: A Guide for New Couples

Everyone has their motivations for being in a relationship, and individuals meet for a variety of reasons. A healthy relationship is characterised in part by the presence of a shared vision of what the partnership should be and where it should go.

You'll only know this by having an open and honest conversation with your partner. However, most healthy partnerships have a few features in common as well. Whatever your objectives or obstacles may perhaps be, knowing these fundamental principles will help you maintain a meaningful, happy, and interesting relationship.

To help you get started, here are five fundamental rules for getting a relationship off to a good start and keeping it that way:

1. Stay True to Who You Are

You are currently in a relationship—you can't keep wasting your time trying to impress your partner all the time. Be upfront and honest about your preferences, dislikes, and overall personality, even if you’re just starting.

In addition to helping avoid wasting time and energy on individuals who aren't a good fit, this method will aid in finding the right partner for you. You don't have to pretend to be someone you're not. You need to be honest to yourself in order for the relationship to flourish.

Don't worry about disappointing your lover. Be ecstatic with your individuality. Self-love is important. If you are being authentic, your partner may like you even more.

2. Make Sure You’re Drawn to the Individual and Not the Relationship

You may have found the dating game tiresome, and you may now have a strong desire to be in a relationship. Your attraction is more to the concept of a relationship than to your partner, and you don't even recognise it.

You also run the danger of putting other people in boxes they don't belong in and reducing the possibility of a spark. If your mind has already persuaded you that something must work, you will ignore flaws and warning signs. Instead, be honest with your partner and accept what they say as fact.

Golden tip: Assume they aren't “The One” before speaking to them.

3. Keep Your Focus on the Present

With every new relationship, you're certain to carry your worries and bad experiences with you. After all, it serves as a protective mechanism to save you from having your heart shattered again.

Old anxieties and doubts may keep you safe from heartache, but they may also keep you from being fully content in a new relationship. If your previous partner was unfaithful, don't be suspicious of your current partner because of that.

Pay attention to the things that set your new companion apart from the rest of the pack. If they've shown themselves trustworthy enough to date, you may put your faith in them.

4. No Need to Be Concerned with Labels

To be on the safe side, you should know whether or not the two of you are seeing anybody else and whether or not you want to keep things casual or go on to something more serious (always be open about what you want).

If you ever introduce someone but are stumped about how to refer to them, simply call them by their first name. You don’t need to specify what they are, and trying to guess would just lead to further misunderstanding.

5. Go For In-Person over Texting for Serious Discussions

Regular check-ins and sending hilarious memes to make your partner giggle while they're at work are made possible through texting. On the other hand, texting should only be used for creating plans and discussing the newest online trends.

If you want to talk about your love for one another or have a dispute, you should do so in person. Apart from making in-person interactions uncomfortable, texting may also lead to misunderstandings because of the information lost in translation.

If you're about to get into a fight with your spouse and you're unable to speak it out over the phone, tell your partner you'll bring it up when you can.


Successful relationships are built on a foundation of work, dedication, and growth alongside your partner—that's what it takes. Regardless of how long you've been together or how new your relationship is, there are actions you can do to make it stronger.

There are methods to remain connected, achieve fulfilment, and enjoy long-term happiness even if you've had many unsuccessful relationships in the past or have previously struggled to reignite the flames of passion in your current relationship.

If you are looking for dating ideas or relationship activities, you may find it through Shake N Date, the relationship app that helps couples spend more quality time together. Download it today to learn more!


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