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Emotional Markers to Hit Before You Can Enter a Relationship

If you’re dating someone or interested in being in a committed relationship, it is important to know if you have the emotional capacity to do so. After all, healthy relationships can only be built if both parties are prepared to put in the effort.

So, how do you know if you are emotionally prepared to enter a relationship? There are a few markers and characteristics that can signify you may be ready for this step.

You Are Letting Someone Get Through Your Walls

While some barriers are a natural protective measure, you should be able to get vulnerable and free with someone you intend to get into a relationship with. It will be hard for a relationship to work if you keep pushing the other person away.

You Trust in Both Your Potential Partner and Yourself

Trust is a core thread in relationships, so it must not only be earned but also willingly given. Believe in your own worth as a person and be ready to give your trust to your other half.

You Are More in Tune with Your Emotions

It’s best to know what you want and be able to cater to someone else emotionally. Be ready to share, express, and manage your feelings to not only keep things good for everyone but also to ensure that you are creating an environment of realness and transparency.

You Are Ready to Meet Halfway

At the end of the day, it’s a two-way street. Be ready to compromise as needed to create win-win situations in decisions that affect both you and your partner.

You Are Ready to Drop Baggage and Insecurity

You only set yourself up for turmoil if you drag in old insecurities and emotional baggage that you may end up projecting unhealthily into your new relationship. Although trauma can seep into us, it is essential to reach a point where you won’t be carrying over negative traits and responses that no longer apply.

You Communicate Effectively

It’s hard to be on the same page with someone if you aren’t communicating with them. Be honest and understand how best to communicate with the person you want to have a relationship with. This isn’t just for their benefit, either. It can greatly help you to get what you need if you can clearly express yourself and know when to do so.

You Can Strike a Balance for Independence

You still need to be your own person and respect that you cannot completely consume another person’s entire life. At the same time, you should still spend enough quality time with each other. It’s all about striking a balance.

You Feel Happy With Where You Are as a Person

Sure, growth is important, and we should always strive to keep moving forward. That said, it is best to be happy and content with what you have now. Are you happy with who and where you are now? Even if you seek improvement, it should not automatically translate to self-hate and disappointment that can throw a wrench into how you build relationships.


Even though life is a continuous path of growth, it’s good to have these pillars as a foundation to truly feel fulfilled in your life and be ready to share it with someone. Don’t beat yourself up if you feel like you are still working on some of these factors. The important thing is that you fit into most of them, and you are actively trying to embody all of them.

The signs of a good relationship will be just as clear as those of a bad one. Make sure you and your prospective partner are taking steps to be the former.

One way to make your relationship grow is to spend more quality time together, like with Shake N Date. Download the app for couples to help you and your significant other feel more fulfilled together.


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