Most of us want to be with someone who would accept our flaws, love us unconditionally and be with us no matter what happens. If you loved our first article on the obvious indications that your relationship will last according to expert therapists, then stay excited for part two.
Without further ado, here are more indicative signs that you are in a healthy relationship that has the potential to last a long time.
4. You Listen to Each Other
Do you find yourself interrupting when the other is talking? Do you go over your partner’s Instagram account? Do you just wait for your ‘conversation’ to be over?
Well, if you said yes to most of the questions, you may not be a very good listener. It is important to show that you are willing to listen. Simply look at them when you are scrolling your phone or stop what you’re doing and turn to them. You should also try giving them your undivided attention especially when you are having a deep conversation.
5. You Share the Same Core Values and Goals in Life
When you want your relationship to last long, you need to have common major goals in life. You may say, opposite attracts or it’s okay if we don’t have the same goals in life. But remember, if you are on the same page, it will prevent major bumps along the way. If you have the same financial and family goals, the less likely you will fight.
For instance, you personally don’t want kids in the next three years after your marriage but your partner wants to have kids now. This may result in disagreements that may grow into a bigger problem.
6. You Both Fight Fair
Every relationship has conflicts; it is inevitable. However, fighting doesn’t always mean you are not fit for each other.
It’s actually a good sign to have conflicts, as advised by Winifred Reilly, a marriage and family therapist. “No matter how difficult the content, nobody gets nasty, nobody piles on unrelated grievances and neither of you wants to win at your partner’s expense.” Just keep in mind that not because you think you’re right doesn’t mean you have to push your way through at the expense of hurting your partner.
The most important thing in a relationship is the understanding that both of you should give to each other especially when you encounter disagreements or have made mistakes. Because at the end of the day, we’re all human beings searching for ways on how to improve ourselves.
It takes two to tango, that’s what they say. A relationship will fail if only one person carries the whole weight of responsibility. It takes both your effort, time, energy, love and sacrifice to get your relationship going in the right and the same direction.
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